A Little Rant About a Certain Pole Meme…

Earlier this week, I started seeing a meme pop up online that really upset me. It features a photo of a rotisserie chicken on a spit, next to a photo of a plus size pole dancer in an inverted tuck, with the words “Nailed It” at the top.

Buckle up, because I’m about to go on a rant.

This meme is offensive. It’s rude. This is my opinion, and people are entitled to theirs, but I don’t understand people within this community who do find it funny. I could get why someone who is outside might think it was a laugh [spoiler: it’s not], because they’re ignorant as to what we do and how hard it is, but inside? I don’t get it.

Here’s the thing: What we do is HARD. It takes tremendous courage to walk into your first class, no matter what your size, but it’s even harder for those who aren’t tiny, or aren’t young, or aren’t what someone might assume a traditional “pole dancer” would be. Additionally, when you are plus size, everything is harder. If you had a hard time inverting as a beginner, and you’re a size 2, imagine how much harder it is if you were 20lbs heavier…or 50lbs…or 100. A successful invert is reason for celebration, no matter what your size, but even more so when you’re fluffier. The dancer in that photo deserves respect and acknowledgement for her hard work, not ridicule by strangers…or by members of her own community.

Another thing? This dancer is a person. Who has feelings. Can you imagine seeing your image taken and used in this way, all over the internet? Can you imagine seeing it spread by the very people in the community that you’re a part of? Dare I say, the community that you love? To me, this is a violation. It’s bullying and cruel.

So, if you see this image, speak up. Say that it sucks and it’s mean. And, if you don’t think it is mean, at least have the respect for your fellow pole dancers to refrain from sharing it. This community is sorely in need of some reform in the area of bullying, and we can all make it better by striving to DO better and BE better.

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About Danielle C

Actress, writer, consumer of too much sugar, cat mom, dog auntie, pole enthusiast, amateur foodie, local explorer. Often mouthy, occasionally political.

Posted on April 23, 2015, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.

  1. Thank you for posting this! I agree with you 100% and continue to see it pop up on Facebook. I don’t understand how adults could think that making fun of another human being (who is, by the way, not only participating in what seems to be a challenging activity, but is taking initiative in her own life and doing something that she obviously enjoys). Thank you for posting this and having a more open mind than the children reposting.

  2. Thank you for posting this! I agree with you 100% and continue to see it pop up on Facebook. I don’t understand how adults could think that making fun of another human being (who is, by the way, not only participating in what seems to be a challenging activity, but is taking initiative in her own life and doing something that she obviously enjoys). Thank you for posting this and having a more open mind than the children reposting.

  3. Whoa, I guess I should count myself lucky for not having friends who would share something like this, because I haven’t seen the meme in question. But from the sounds of it, that’s horrible and I agree that our community should know better than that.

  4. Great blog! I know that poler personally, thumbs up!

  5. for being the woman in said meme, I cannot thank this pole community enough for sticking up for me.

    Yes I am a person, with feelings and emotions. From putting myself out on the internet years ago I have endured many hateful things said about me. I have learned to let it go and know I have bigger fish to fry and better things to do in my life.

    But what makes me smile and sometimes tear up is how much we have each other’s back no matter where we live in the world. To know I have plenty of pole sisters (and brothers) that got me me no matter what the Internet tosses at me is the best feeling in the world.

    • Keep it up! We all have bigger fish to fry – more important things in the world. If people aren’t talking about you negatively, you’re doing something wrong. Anyone that puts themselves out there in a challenging light, there will always be something negative to say about it.

    • Lulu – if you are ever in Nashville, please come pole with us at The Chrome Bar! A bunch of us ladies got very upset that someone would post such hurtful things. It is NOT allowed at our house. Mucho love and respect. I am in awe of what you are able to do, and after 9 months am still nowhere close! For every hater out there, there are 3x the cheerleaders! My motto is always this: let my haters be my motivators. 😀

      ❤ ❤

    • Do not even worry about this stupid meme! My first reaction was NO not funny – not cool. I’m sorry that someone did that to your picture. Keep up the hard work in your pole efforts!! We all know whoever made that picture could never do the shit we do! Xo

      And props for posting this blog!!! Such a nice gesture I’m glad we can have each other’s backs in the pole community!

  6. Perfect response! That meme was hurtful and inappropriate! As a poler who is a bit curvier than others myself, I’m so glad that so many people have stood up and criticized this meme! (And, as someone who has seen a couple of Lulu’s videos, she’s amazing! Nothing but pure respect!)

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